No wig for you

[mamadeb]

That was a disaster. We tried to do the wig thing tonight. The sheitel *she* was wearing was awful - too long, stiff and her hairline was visible - and it's a visibly different color. I have a very low hairline. And when she started to hard sell, well, jonbaker over-reacted, but he was in the main right. I *know* the halachot of hair covering because I took a course in the matter, and then to have someone telling me that tichels are NOT tziniut because they slip back (yes, they do, and yes, mine do) while here own sheitel was as well...and we don't do hardsells well.

As it happens, I was marshalling my own arguments against it when Jonathan got upset, but the upshot is, no wig. Especially no *ugly* wig. In wigs as much as anything else, you get what you pay for. If I ever decide again to get one (twice I've thought about it, twice something happened to change my mind), I'll spend the money and get a good one - one that, even if it doesn't look natural, at least looks good. I was already starting to doubt this thing - when would I wear it? To the occasional Chasidic wedding, basically.

Instead, we'll get the beds we need, and a new, larger flatscreen monitor. Maybe someday a laptop and the wireless network we'll need. But hair? Not this year.

Comments

[penmage.livejournal.com]

I actually have a very good, very expensive sheitel. I wear it to weddings, and sometimes to work. I thought I'd wear it to work all the time (one of the excuses I gave myself for getting such a pricey one) but it's not as comfortable as a scarf (surprise!) and I'm okay with wearing a bandana/scarf with my own hair coming down from it.

And publishing is business casual, and after a few weeks of wearing Sadie (the wig) to work and getting stress headaches, I decided, screw it, and now I wear scarves most of the time, and Sadie on bad hair days.

[mamadeb.livejournal.com]

I think scarves (or hats) with hair coming down is such a pretty look (and I know you studied the matter before you got married - I remember the post.)

Thing of it is that scarves can look fine in a casual situation, with one added benefit over hats - no one expects you to take them off, since they're obviously part of a look.

And since I decided to cover all of my hair, I never have bad hair days. :)

[jonbaker.livejournal.com]

When my 8th-9th grade math teacher got married (and went from Miss Rhein to Mrs. Levin), she wore a sheitl for two days, a curly one that looked rather silly on her, and then switched to hats (beret, usually). Covering was a matter of personal choice, I expect - not all of the Jewish married female teachers covered, although most did, and the principal's wife didn't either.