mamadeb

I'm not quite sure I see the point of that sort of bachelor/ette party, either, and I don't think it has anything to do with age, gender, or, intrinsic staidness -- but since those parties are part of our collective notion of the Standard American Wedding, you need a fair degree of comfort with bucking Standard American trends to avoid them. Happily, this is among the advantages we geeks bring to marriage. ;)