So, in theory, my mother and her sister should've checked with my grandmother ahead of time to make sure it was OK for them to say Kaddish for her? Isn't someone obligated to say Kaddish, or would a traditional Jew be out of luck if there wasn't a surviving male parent, spouse, sibling, or child? I don't mean to be rude; I'm just curious. I don't think I've ever been to a service where the seating wasn't mixed, and my fragmentary knowledge of ancient and medieval Jewish law doesn't always make the leap to contemporary practice.
By the way, I know that the Sukkot-season Yizkor service is supposed to be on Shemini Atzeret (although I suppose it wouldn't matter if you were in Israel), but this synagogue doesn't much care. It's the only synagogue in the city (rather than Out In The Suburbs) where I live, and the only ones in the inner suburbs are either (very) Conservative or Orthodox. I'm pretty much overeducated Reform (that is, a very liberal Conservative shul might work); I just strongly prefer a traditional liturgy, and this place is almost off the Renewal end. But the location, building, congregants, etc. are all great, so I'm probably going with it. And before I start on their Yizkor timing, I'm going to see what I can do about bringing back some of the early-afternoon Yom Kippur services. The nice thing about the liturgy being so loosey-goosey is that I can offer to lead them as a "breakout session." ;)
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Date: 2002-10-01 07:43 pm (UTC)By the way, I know that the Sukkot-season Yizkor service is supposed to be on Shemini Atzeret (although I suppose it wouldn't matter if you were in Israel), but this synagogue doesn't much care. It's the only synagogue in the city (rather than Out In The Suburbs) where I live, and the only ones in the inner suburbs are either (very) Conservative or Orthodox. I'm pretty much overeducated Reform (that is, a very liberal Conservative shul might work); I just strongly prefer a traditional liturgy, and this place is almost off the Renewal end. But the location, building, congregants, etc. are all great, so I'm probably going with it. And before I start on their Yizkor timing, I'm going to see what I can do about bringing back some of the early-afternoon Yom Kippur services. The nice thing about the liturgy being so loosey-goosey is that I can offer to lead them as a "breakout session." ;)