mamadeb

Oh... between different family customs and differing movements' practices... yeah, I can see where that would get... difficult. At least it sounds like Mitchell's girlfriend was operating on a misunderstanding, and not a deliberate choice to be antagonistic. I drift between Reform and Reconstructionist, and I've heard some doozies in Reform Temples, including--when I suggested that perhaps Shabbat T'shuva wasn't the best time to hold a big wedding--"Yeah, right... are you going to toss up a mechitza next and tell women to shut up during services?" :headdesk: Lots of "fear of Orthodoxy"--or Orthopraxy--to the point where when it was suggested by a religious practices committee that we remind women who were going to be on the (eye-level) bimah that they'd want to wear skirts that would go down over their knees, we got into a huge fight because that was apparently "too restrictive-sounding"--after all, someone might interpret it as meaning she's not allowed to wear pants!--to pass Reform muster. And that's when I gave up on that committee. And that Temple.

I hope you're having a good holiday in there somewhere, though, hives aside! Seder in any configuration is a great and wonderful thing.