Foo

[mamadeb]

Okay, you have to know this. I *hate* cutsey-poo things. I really do.

And this, to me, is really cutsey-poo. I know some of you will disagree, and maybe think it's lovely. I just. Ick.

My brother-in-law's future sister-in-law just sent us a square of fabric to decorate to be part of a personalized chuppah (wedding canopy.) She thinks it'll be great because she had a girlfriend who did this.

And - my goodness. How *twee.*

And, well. We were hoping they'd use the same chuppah we did.

Their grandfather's tallis. You know. Family. Continuity. Tradition - something that will be sadly missing from this wedding otherwise. We haven't suggested it, of course.

It *is* their wedding and they have the right to decide what to use.

Except - they will now HAVE to use this chuppah because it'll be made by all their friends and family. Whether they want to or not. And. Foo.

Edit: M does know about it - he told Jonathan they were going to do what he called an "AIDS quilt" sort of thing, but Jonathan didn't realize it would include us, so he never said. So. Well. And he doesn't think it's so bad, either.

Comments

[bercilakslady.livejournal.com]

Huh. I dislike the surprise aspect of this, as the couple should in no way be forced into using something for their chuppah that they don't want. That said, I've been asked (by the bride) to help with such a personalized chuppah. The family did a wonderful job decorating the squares, and it was lovely.

[mamadeb.livejournal.com]

Turns out I was wrong.

Really wrong - had an argument with my husband about it, too.

I should be glad they're having a chuppah at all.

[bercilakslady.livejournal.com]

Now that I've read all the edits, I can just say that I'm sorry there's so much that causes misgivings about the ceremony.

[mamadeb.livejournal.com]

Please let me be clear.

We're extremely happy about the fact that they're getting married. They're very much in love, she's a bright, sweet and beautiful woman, and we adore her daughter.

We just wish they'd chosen a closer place - Jonathan's family really does understand *small* weddings and large sheva brachot.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm glad to hear you are happy about the marriage, and I'm sorry I didn't make it clear that I know you are. I just with you were happier about the placement of the actual ceremony.

[bercilakslady.livejournal.com]

That's me above, sorry about that.